Attracting Women Without Looks, Money and Fame

I’ve had to make the title for this article slightly longer than I normally would mainly to get the attention of a large proportion of men who thinks these traits are what is necessary to attract women, namely, looks, money and fame.

Certainly the first two traits, looks and money are things that most men believe women will flock to regardless of how much the guy is an asshole or a jerk. Most men, and certainly I did a few years ago, pray for the day that a windfall of money would fall on their lap so that women would spot me from afar and rush over to me pleading for a date. Or perhaps you may have even find yourself saying ‘if only I had been born with better looks,’ you may have said this the last time you saw a beautiful woman you wanted to talk to but just couldn’t bring yourself to walk up to her and make a move.

As I always say in all my writing such beliefs are not true, and are purely fantasy. It doesn’t matter if you are average looking with a modest monthly paycheck, you can attract a total ‘ten’ of a woman.

Even as you read this now, you may think that that your position is so dire that this could never be possible not today, not tomorrow nor in a million years. Personally I don’t buy this, I believe with practice and focus, in one years time you can be a total success with women.

I hope the mention of a years time didn’t scare you away. If you’re still reading then that’s definitely a good sign because it’s a possible indication that you are more than capable of becoming successful. The reason I say this is because most of us men who struggle with women purely seek the ‘quick fix.’ In other words:

We want to be good with women NOW.

This is why the majority of men search for ‘pick up line’s and other one liners to attract women to us. A pick up line (if it works) would be a quick way to get a woman fast, the MASSIVE problem is however, is that they don’t work. Have you ever thought about this?  Could it ever be possible to get a woman to become attracted to you by saying your best pick up line? My take on pick up lines is that they may work if a woman already likes you to begin with, but how many of us are in such a position?

It’s the same deal with techniques. When I say techniques I mean quick pick up techniques that you can use on a woman that masks the reality that you may not be that ‘great’ with women. Techniques are again a lazy way to attract women, and you’ll find that they don’t work anyway.

I want to point out that I am not blaming from guys wanting to try techniques or chat up lines, I used them too a few years back. I tried to act cool around women, I tried techniques but whatever I did I ended up flat on my face. Often times I didn’t know why these things weren’t working. I really couldn’t work it out. Almost every night and all weekend I would wonder what I was doing wrong, after all, I was just doing what every other guy was doing.

Then it hit me. There was the problem.

I WAS DOING WHAT EVERY GUY WAS DOING.

This was one of the key thinking moments that changed my life. If you think about it, women get hit on all day, even average looking women get hit on all day. It would not be unfair to say that they probably get the same joker daily trying his best chat up line or his best technique. Not only are you just standing within a crowd but you’re also not differentiating yourself from other men and being unique.

In addition women can sense a faker, that’s for sure! They don’t actively scan you for any fakeness but rather their subconscious tells them to back away either through an uncomfortable ‘feeling’ or ‘vibe.’

This is why one of the most important things you can do to start attracting women today, is to begin to work on yourself. Work on your self-esteem and who you are. A woman doesn’t want someone who is fake and neither do you. Could you imagine being fake throughout your relationship? Or having to live in the fear that she may find out your true personality one day? We all want a woman to be attracted to us while we’re being ourselves. That’s what we really want, and that’s what women want to.

As I said earlier, within one year or even less, if you work on building your own self-esteem and confidence this will drastically improve your success with women. When you’re confident around women, you naturally behave the way that attracts women, they sense that you’re sincere and not out to trick them into liking them. Working on yourself is truly where it begins.

Make a commitment to yourself that you will begin to work on the ‘inner game’ rather than the outer game. Understand that techniques mean nothing if you have not built up the character within.

If you start with this in mind from today, I can guarantee that you will be in a much better position with women than if you spent an eternity learning the best pick lines and techniques.