The fear of rejection, I believe is stopping about 95% of men from either getting the girl they really want or even getting any girls to start off with!
And that’s why it’s so important that I want to bring to you this whole idea of rejection.
So why is rejection such a frightening thing to us?
Why does something that potentially only last 5 seconds strike so much fear into us?
It’s really funny if you think about it… well not ‘funny’ but strange.
Say there’s a girl you really like and you’ve liked her for years.
You dream about her everyday.
You dream about going on holiday with her.
You dream about driving in a convertible into the sunset with her leaning her head against your shoulder .
What a spectacular dream…
Imagine the rest of your life with her..
Now that’s something…
Okay, now come back with me to reality.
We are back in the real world now where you’re nowhere near making that dream a reality.
Why is that?
You’re afraid she may laugh at you…?
Or
You’re afraid that she may have some big boyfriend somewhere who’s got a baseball bat underneath his coat?
What is it?
What’s your reason?
From my experience none of these things have even remotely been close to reality.
When I first started out I was dead scared to do anything.
But there came a time, where I did after many YEARS approach a girl I liked.
And I was rejected…
But it was totally fine. It actually felt better than I thought it would be…
I was totally reacting over the whole thing… I was causing myself more pain everyday by imagining what could happen rather than actually doing it!
Isn’t it strange how something that only lasts for just a moment is stopping us from having all those dreams that I described before?
Isn’t it strange how we are all willing to hold back saying one sentence to a girl we like and preventing us from ever realizing our dreams with a girl we truly do like?
Why do we do this?
Why are we… so blind?
And I think I know why…
And it’s because we focus on the bad outcomes of what rejection brings. We focus on what if she says ‘no’, or “what if she shouts at me?”
Why don’t we focus on the good things?
What if she says ‘yes’?!
If she says ‘yes’ then that’s incredible!
I’ve installed this mindset so much in my head that it’s weird but on the rare instances where I do get rejected… I’ve actually learned to enjoy it and to get a good feeling from it.
I’m not talking solely about women. I’m talking about job applications and anything where I ask someone something.
Because when I know I’ve been rejected I know that I tried to get the best things in my life.
How can you be satisfied knowing that you didn’t do everything in your power to get the best things in your life?
It’s remarkable that we can train ourselves to enjoy things and associate good feelings to.
Here’s an extreme example, think in the case of suicide bombers. These guys have been conditioned to associate a great feeling with dying!
That’s why conditioning yourself to take rejection isn’t that hard to do. I mean come on… no one dies at the end of a rejection!
So if you want to be good with women, then you need to make a start and get out there because if you don’t you are not living your life to the full.