Meeting A Girlfriend Online

Getting online and actually making an effort is a great way of getting a girlfriend if you are naturally shy. Don’t assume that online dating is only filled with unattractive girls. As it’s becoming more and more popular the chances of finding someone are very high.

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I can’t tell you how many messages and e-mails I get from guys who always pursue women only to end up in the dreaded friends zone.

Has this happened to you?

No matter how much you want to avoid it you always end up with a girl saying things like:

“I only like you as a friend”

“Can we just be friends?”

“I don’t see you in that way”

Or maybe it’s more annoying than that, perhaps you are courting a girl that you really like but she keeps telling that she likes OTHER GUYS.

In other words she notices practically every other guy around her EXCEPT for you?

The friends zone is a place where a lot of guys end up and it’s a dangerous place to keep getting stuck in. And once you go down a route with a girl there’s almost no hope in turning back and then going back down the correct direction with her. Because in most cases if a girl categorises you as ‘friend material’ then sometimes it can be hard to turn yourself back into ‘boyfriend material’

If you want to avoid getting into the friends zone you need to start to trigger attraction in the girl. Most guys do not know how to do this and exhibit behaviour or show a girl actions that never come close the pushing the correct buttons.

You have to realise that a girl does not choose whether she likes you as a friend or not. She thinks she is choosing but really she’s not, it’s simply a case that you haven’t triggered attraction within her. If you begin to learn how to trigger attraction in women then no matter how hard she tries to put you in the friends zone she won’t be able to.

She’ll want more.

So how do we trigger attraction and totally steer clear of the friends zone?

Let’s just say most men seek a relationship with a girl incorrectly right from the start.

What they do is that they exhibit ‘relationship’ type behviour…

What I mean is that guys do things that BOYFRIENDS do. They buy gifts, they spend time with the girl, they constantly call the girl or are there for the girl 24/7.

I know what you’re thinking…

You’re thinking I’m weird… but other than that you’re thinking…

“But if I want her to be my girlfriend I have to act like a boyfriend”

To me, that makes logical sense.. if you want to be her boyfriend then why don’t you do boyfriend stuff..

But it’s TOTALLY the WRONG APPROACH.

Since I’ve started to spend more time with women in relationships or even as friends I’ve come to the realisation that the process of creating attraction in a woman – getting a woman to like you for more than just friends – is COUNTER INTUITIVE.

What I mean is that WHAT YOU THINK CREATES ATTRACTION…. DOESN’T.

Buying gifts for a girl and sucking up to her doesn’t create attraction and if you keep doing this you will almost never get the girl you want and always settle for second best.

The key thing is that if you keep ending up in the friends zone you MUST STOP acting or treating a girl as if you are ALREADY in a relationship with her. You must find a new approach because it means you don’t quite fully understand how to attract women.

Look at it this way…

Have you always noticed how the JERK always ends up with women. Sometimes he ends up with the hottest women. Isn’t it weird? It’s a little bit annoying too if you ask me..

But have you noticed that JERK’s aren’t nice to women? And that they don’t show ‘good’ boyfriend behaviour? Do you think a JERK make a good boyfriend?

Let me ask you a question.

Do jerk’s ever spend a lot of time TRYING to get women? Can you imagine them doing what you’ve tried so far?

I believe that there’s some trait that’s jerks show that get girls to like them.

By the way I’m not saying go out and act like a JERK. I really do believe that Jerks attract women ACCIDENTALLY. In other words it’s not as if they are good with women or that they understand women better than you or I. It’s just that it’s a certain way of behaving that attracts women.

Over time I’ve learnt what that is and I’ve used it myself to create attraction in some of the best women around. And the AMAZING THING is that you don’t have to be a Jerk either.

I hope I’ve made it clear that to attract women you do not have to be a jerk. You just have to take some of the things that jerks do to avoid the friendzone.

And once you’ve created attraction and have the girl as your girlfriend.

THEN you can exhibit relationship type behaviour – spend time with her, call her, buy her gifts etc.

So if you want to avoid the friends zone you need to do all you can to avoid relationship type behaviour and exhibit the traits that will really cause a woman to be attracted to you.Remember you are a special person and you deserve to be an important part in any girls life. You deserve to be more than just friends..and you can be more than that. You just need a new approach.

And that’s why it’s so important that I want to bring to you this whole idea of rejection.

So why is rejection such a frightening thing to us?

Why does something that potentially only last 5 seconds strike so much fear into us?

It’s really funny if you think about it… well not ‘funny’ but strange.

Say there’s a girl you really like and you’ve liked her for years.

You dream about her everyday.

You dream about going on holiday with her.

You dream about driving in a convertible into the sunset with her leaning her head against your shoulder .

What a spectacular dream…

Imagine the rest of your life with her..

Now that’s something…

Okay, now come back with me to reality.

We are back in the real world now where you’re nowhere near making that dream a reality.

Why is that?

You’re afraid she may laugh at you…?

Or

You’re afraid that she may have some big boyfriend somewhere who’s got a baseball bat underneath his coat?

What is it?

What’s your reason?

From my experience none of these things have even remotely been close to reality.

When I first started out I was dead scared to do anything.

But there came a time, where I did after many YEARS approach a girl I liked.

And I was rejected…

But it was totally fine. It actually felt better than I thought it would be…

I was totally reacting over the whole thing… I was causing myself more pain everyday by imagining what could happen rather than actually doing it!

Isn’t it strange how something that only lasts for just a moment is stopping us from having all those dreams that I described before?

Isn’t it strange how we are all willing to hold back saying one sentence to a girl we like and preventing us from ever realizing our dreams with a girl we truly do like?

Why do we do this?

Why are we… so blind?

And I think I know why…

And it’s because we focus on the bad outcomes of what rejection brings. We focus on what if she says ‘no’, or “what if she shouts at me?”

Why don’t we focus on the good things?

What if she says ‘yes’?!

If she says ‘yes’ then that’s incredible!

I’ve installed this mindset so much in my head that it’s weird but on the rare instances where I do get rejected… I’ve actually learned to enjoy it and to get a good feeling from it.

I’m not talking solely about women. I’m talking about job applications and anything where I ask someone something.

Because when I know I’ve been rejected I know that I tried to get the best things in my life.

How can you be satisfied knowing that you didn’t do everything in your power to get the best things in your life?

It’s remarkable that we can train ourselves to enjoy things and associate good feelings to.

Here’s an extreme example, think in the case of suicide bombers. These guys have been conditioned to associate a great feeling with dying!

That’s why conditioning yourself to take rejection isn’t that hard to do. I mean come on… no one dies at the end of a rejection!

So if you want to be good with women, then you need to make a start and get out there because if you don’t you are not living your life to the full.

However, guys who do not have a clue on how to attract women end up lavishing the opposite sex with gifts, expensive stuff, and other unnecessary things just to earn their favor. The problem is tactics like this most of the time do not actually work. Instead of winning a womans heart, you will just end up losing your resources without even landing first base, this is something that’s very much advocated in the Girlfriend Blueprint.

Good thing there is a rich bank of knowledge that could equip you the right tools in earning a womans favor. Through the tips below, you can establish immense connections with any girl that you like. By learning these simple yet very effective tips, you will be the next Casanova in no time.

Extraordinary Understanding What Attracts the Opposite Sex

This may sound off-beat but to know how to attract women, it is more effective to act unaffected. Instead of doing everything you can to attract her attention, why not ignore her? Unusual tip, huh? But the thing is, it works. For beginners, women tend to test mens endurance and patience. They will do everything they can to test whether a man will easily fold under pressure or not. The reason is simple. Most women look for men who are willing to protect them. In short, they opt for men who can stand on his ground. A weak type of dude whom they can easily boss around is a no-no. So, think about it pal.

This also means that the first step to please a woman is by reading her thoughts. You must clearly understand if you are just being tested or not. By recognizing this, you can easily demonstrate to a particular woman how firm you can stick to your values. Through this, you can show your woman your strength and your capability to make decisions on your own as well as provide her with protection when the need comes. Aside from this, you easily be in charge of your relationship. Take note that taking command on a certain relationship is crucial. A man who is capable of doing this is very attractive to women.

Pleasing Woman on an Emotional Level

Physically, men may be tough as doornails but when it comes to emotion, they are as sensitive as a door knob. The prevailing macho culture makes men uptight when it comes to showing their real emotion as well as being sensitive to that of other people especially women. If you wish to win your womans favor, it is very important to please them on an emotional level. Women communicate indirectly and it is your task to master how they work this out. This may not be all too easy but mastering this skill can be pretty rewarding. Women like you to read between the lines at all times. Understanding this is the first step but fulfilling these needs is far more important.

Most of the time, you will get confused but with much effort and patience, you will definitely know how to attract women emotionally. As a hint, you can check out those million dollar ads intended for women. The people who create these marketing and advertising campaigns take great time and effort to hit womens psychological G-spot. Learn as much as you can from them.

Pleasing Women on the Physical Level

After pleasing women emotionally, she will be more open to be intimate with you on a physical level. The key, therefore, to please her physically is to touch her emotions first. By establishing a good connection between the two of you, she will be more willing to open up for you on sexual level. The bottom line is, confidence, and emotional satisfaction are two important values that you must cultivate to make any woman truly yours.

What you have above is not an isolated case as about 90% of men who engage in online dating also give up within the first three months of signing up because they fail to get the positive results that they wanted. Many men are just like you in a sense that they too are lost when it comes to playing the online dating game.

But if you really want to make your come back on the dating scene and you are really persistent in finding the best online dating tips for men to serve as your guide, then do not worry. Here are a few words of advice that will surely help you in finding little miss perfect:

Avoid Dating Online

Now, before you go on and argue about how this can be helpful with your online dating, it will be better if you would just relax and hear me out. I’m not actually telling you to stop visiting dating sites as I know that this is one great way to socialize and interact with lots of great women. But what I’m trying to say is that if you are really serious in finding the perfect one and starting a long term relationship with her, then perhaps it will be great if you can try to relate to her in person instead of just having a virtual interaction.

This is perhaps one of the many things that online dating tips wont tell you as all those tips teach you is how to communicate with the other person through emails. Starting a relationship online is something that can be impersonal and it does not provide you with a relationship that is deep enough to last. You might end up realizing that you were just wasting your time all along.

In addition to this, online dating can sometime be deceitful too as there are a lot of women who provide you with false information while there are some who are not too committed about this whole online dating thing that they wont even agree on meet ups. But you can avoid all these by using the online dating site only to meet someone and still build a great relationship with her in a more personal way.

Great Timing is the Key

When emailing a girl, remember to do it on weekend mornings. This may sound a bit odd but remember that women are not like men and for them; timing is that big of a deal. A woman thinks differently than you. She pays attention to every detail and is very keen on the entire process of how you woe her.

What you need to remember is that women who engage in online dating are pursued by other men too which means that if you send her an email during the work week, you have a lesser chance of getting noticed due to the tons of email from other men that she receives as well as her busy schedule. At the same time, a woman usually goes out and have fun during the weekends and if she doesn’t find someone during those nights, she is more likely to wake up in the morning feeling frustrated that she will actually take time noticing her online dating emails and since you send it out just that morning, yours will be the first one she will notice.

Be Smart on the Word Play

This may be the last of the online dating tips for men but this is also the most essential as you need to know that there are three basic rules when emailing women: keep it short and sweet (just a little under a hundred words or else she would feel too smothered), be persistent and send a couple more letters after that, and lastly, make it clear that you are a man of decent virtues so as you can gain her trust.

Now, it is also best if you can show her that you are interested in her just enough and make sure to not make it sound like you are desperate for her reply. Doing so will send her a signal that you wouldn’t care much if you don’t hear from her. As odd as it may seem but women also like the challenge and being perceived as someone not desperate will actually make her think that you are a man worth paying attention to.

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What do you think is the best way to ask a girl out?

Have you really thought about it?

Over the years since I decided to get this area of my life handled, I went through countless times where I was repeatedly getting rejected, luckily for me this no longer happens but at the time it was tough.

The thing is, the part where I got rejected most was when I asked a girl out.

And I mean literally asking a girl out, I would often use the famous line:

“Would you like to go out sometime?”

And this was the part I would get the polite ‘no’ or ‘sorry, I’m busy.’

So rather than take these constant failures and let them destroy my life I made the decision to learn from my failures.

My philosophy now is that there isn’t such a thing as ‘failure.’

Failure only exists when you let a failure stop you from ever trying again. That’s when you really have failed.

So anyway, my constant rejections led me to believe that there must be something wrong with how I was asking girls out.

I was sure that my technique was my downfall and this was the area that needed improvement because I had already put all my secret excuses to one side.

But now that I’ve had time to tweak my approach and learn what doesn’t work, I’ve come to realize one big thing when asking out a girl that will ensure success…

And the secret is…

Here it comes…

Is to ask a girl out in such a way that you aren’t indicating to her that you like her.

You see, the problem with asking a girl outright on a date is that you are giving the woman all the power by telling her you like her.

What you should be doing instead is to ask her out as a friend.

Yes you heard me…

…. AS A FRIEND

Even if you love this girl to death you do not want to signal to her that you like her otherwise by doing so it will have the opposite effect.

Most guys when they see a girl they like, they basically signal immediately to the girl that they like her. They are literally asking for a marriage or proposing on the spot.

The problem with this is that this isn’t exciting for her…

Where’s the chase?

The game where each other’s playing ‘hard to get.’

By asking her straight out you’re BORING HER.

If she’s totally hot, get inside her head.

Realistically how many times is she going to have been asked out for some needy guy who wants to get with her?

You have to think differently my friend…

Don’t give in and ask her out like every other schmuck.

Be smart and original and you’ll be fine.

We are now in a situation where we cannot complain that there isn’t enough information on the subject, there’s literally tons of it, yet despite the mass information out there many of us men still don’t know what it takes to become attractive to the opposite sex.

More specifically, we try everything that we think works yet nothing seems to work. I’ve found myself in endless situations where I’ve tried to impress a woman by being a cool guy that she wants or the nice guy who’s always there for her – the downside was not once did any of these things work. I am sure that there are many other guys who are in this position right now who experience the same results as myself.

For me, this cycle of rejection and of a girl always being interested in some else continued for as long as I kept doing these things that are SUPPOSED to attract women. That was the big ‘aha’ moment, that was the moment that really excelled my understanding and sparked my interest into finding out what really did attract women.

But before we get to that exciting revelation, I feel it’s important to discuss why a lot of us can’t get women.

One reason is this.

Most of us men are trying to attract women using techniques that will never work. The issue here is that all of us think it should work because that’s what everyone else is doing. The consensus is that we should ‘act cool’ and be ‘nice’ and use pick up lines.

Firstly, acting cool will never work. Women are incredibly intuitive, so much so that I often liken them to cats. You know the way that cats just know which person in the room is focusing on them – funny thing is, the cat will ignore the person who is focusing on the cat and be drawn to the person who isn’t thinking about them. Women are the same in that they can sense someone acting cool very easily and a bit like cats, they will go after the person who isn’t eyeing them up. They don’t want a faker or someone who isn’t genuine.

Ask yourself this: Would you want someone who wasn’t genuine?

Being Nice

And here’s why being ‘nice’ doesn’t work. Being nice will never create attraction. It will never get a woman from not liking you, to suddenly liking you just because you’re nice. You’re not suddenly going to turn into somebody she must have and become totally irresistible to her. My philosophy is that being nice is boyfriend behavior. In other words being nice only works once she already likes you. If you buy a woman flowers when she’s already madly hot for you, it works wonders. Conversely, if she doesn’t feel hot for you, and you buy her flowers then it doesn’t do anything for her and unlikely will.

Despite the whole debacle that most of us men are using techniques that don’t work we still continue to pursue with them. We are conditioned to believe that to attract women you have to be cool or act nice or impress a woman. Sure you should impress a woman, but you don’t want to go out SEEKING to impress a woman.

If you really want to stop failing with women and turn it around into success immediately then you must stop thinking that you know what attracts women or you must start to stop believing that techniques and pick up lines are the things that work.

If you don’t stop, then all you are doing is being like every other guy out there. Women get approached by men all the time, and probably 90% of these guys are using the same lame techniques. For a woman to take notice of you and to become intrigued you need to be yourself.

Be Yourself

If you’re a guy who is damn sure that being ‘yourself’ is not the answer then I have news for you, it’s the only way, and it’s the way that I have used to create an abundance of women in my life. You may not think that being yourself will not work because you aren’t a natural that attracts women. Heck I was there too! I wasn’t comfortable with who I was, but once you do, you have plenty of attraction power within.

By the way, thinking this way is not bad, it seems logical. I also thought this way. But what you have to do, is build up your confidence and self-esteem and work on your inner game, so that when you be yourself around women – you magnify true awesomeness that women can’t resist.

There’s a type of guy who has built up his self-esteem and attracts women 24/7 without thinking about it. This is a guy who understands that he doesn’t need to impress women, nor does he need to be fake to attract one. Women are all attracted to this type of guy. I’ve singled him out as being the High Status Male. With enough work and dedication we can all become a High Status Male and attract women for who we are without being fake.

Isn’t this what we all really want?

I know this feeling very well myself having experienced it day after day for years. Since I’ve been getting myself more acquainted with the topic of attraction, I’ve thankfully turned this fact right on it’s head and I now enjoy a much better life free of these worries.

I look at men today who struggle with women, then I compared myself to how I was back then too and I’ve noticed that one of the major factors that keep all us men down is what we actually thinks attract women.

I’d wager that if you asked any guy who currently struggles with women, what the main things that are attract women are, they will say ‘looks’, ‘money’ and fame.

I’m here to tell that I don’t necessarily believe that looks, money and fame contribute to overall attraction. As I always write, a woman who becomes attracted to a man who lacks personality solely on because of his looks, she will find it hard to stay with him long-term. A guy who only has looks will not be able to keep the best women with him and even though he may get attention initially from an interested woman, she will go off him very quickly, once she realizes he is boring.

This is true of money also. How often do we hear stories of women who marry men for money only for them to go on to have affairs with more interesting men with little or no money.

What women want is totally different to what we really know.

Before I go on, I don’t blame men for thinking that money, fame and looks attracts women, after all I was one who also adopted this line of thinking a few years back,  it’s just that we’ve been brainwashed slowly to believe that these things matter.

If you take two men who are often cited as being in high demand by women, I would go with George Clooney and Brad Pitt.

Lets look at this closely. Do they cover all these traits? First of all they certainly both have money, they probably can easily command above $10million per movie. Secondly, ‘yes’ they have looks. And since their faces are constantly splashed over every magazine and theater screen they definitely have fame.

So in conclusion these three things must be attractive to women?

I still don’t buy this. I think that if you look a lot deeper these two men both have something else about them that makes them attractive and that’s that they carry themselves with confidence, and this is something that any man can instill in himself with a bit of practice.

If you watch them both, they are both confident and have a charm about them, and in addition they both have good body language. In other words they have the core traits that women want. Sean Connery has been a hit with women, even up until now because of his confidence.

Some guys have caught on to the fact that confidence is key. The only problem is they try to apply a veneer of fake confidence by acting ‘cool’ or trying to impress a potential girlfriend by being someone else.

It doesn’t take a second for a woman to catch on to the fact that you may be deceiving her, if she senses this she’ll quickly move off. I know this is true because it happened to me multiple times, the frustrating thing was that I couldn’t work out why I kept getting the cold shoulder.

This is why it is imperative that guys looking for a quick fix to becoming attractive to women through pick up lines and techniques cease to stop searching for the magic bullet. The key is to take the time to build up your own self esteem and your own confidence, this may take some time, but when you get to a point where women radiate to your confidence even when you aren’t trying, then in itself this is the magic bullet.

Since I started to work on the inner game rather than the outer game, I saw great leaps of improvement. Women seem to respond much more favorably when you are being exactly who you are. It’s just that most of us don’t have the guile to remain ourselves around women.

If you want to improve your success with women stop looking for the quick fix and focus on working on yourself long-term. You’ll find that your life will begin to pick up and of course, more women will come.

Do you remember the guy who had all the girls around him?

The guy that always had his choice of the field of women?

I bet that in most cases you even cursed his luck with women. I myself admit that I did my own bit of cursing to a guy such as this and I’d also go over the areas in life I was better than him so that I could look down at him.  Oh, and by the way there wasn’t much that I was better than him at.

The High Status Male is somebody you should model ourselves on if you want the following things:

1. To attract women even when you aren’t trying
2. To attract the best women who are truly 10 of 10 and in the highest league.
3. To attract women without having to be fake because we are so genuine that every woman wants to be with us.
4. To attract the best women without by only being ourselves and doing what we want to do in life.
5. To never have to worry about ‘getting women’ again so that you can live with the feeling that this part of your life is handled.

I’m sure a lot of these points were of interest to you and you were nodding your head to all the points.

Just to let you know I am not here to sell you a quick fix to becoming him. It takes time and you have to work on your ‘inner game’ to become like him. To emphasise how and why he can attract so many women compared to us, I want to first look at the whole idea of ‘value’.

Inner Value

I believe that men who are successful with women are successful for primarily one reason. No it’s not money, looks or athleticism. It’s how much a guy values himself. It’s how much confidence he has about who he is and what he represents. The High Status Male knows that he doesn’t have to actively go out and impress a woman because he can be himself and impress women.

Now that’s confidence!

So why do women go after a man who values himself?

Let’s look at one of my formulas on value. I say that: A woman will only be attracted to a guy of greater or equal value to herself.

This means that if a woman is approached by a woman who she believes is of lower value, she will not want to be with him. However, if a guy approaches her who is of greater value than herself, she will respond to the guy.

Now here’s the deal, a High Status Male values himself so highly, that everyone in his proximity can pick up on his positive vibes. His confidence is clear for all to see. When a woman notices a guy with this much confidence about who he is, she can’t help but also value him highly.

We can also use this to explain why a lot of men never get women through techniques and seeking to impress women (If you’re interested I wrote an article here). When a guy approaches a woman with the intention of trying to please a woman this backfires because a woman will intuitively pick up the ‘desperate and needy’ vibes of the guy and immediately deem him as a low value male. Since her value is higher, she will not respond to this type of guy.

Work on Yourself

The good news is that most High Status Males were not born with high confidence but it’s something they gained as they worked on themselves. I wouldn’t be surprised if most High Status Males were at some point like you and I. Simply put, this means that any guy through constant work and effort can slowly evolve into a male who values himself, and when you start to value yourself more, you will notice your success with women begin to rise.

One of the best places to start in your quest to become a High Status Male is to learn to control your inner thoughts. This is what you think about yourself. Self-talk like: “I’m not good-looking enough” or “Women, won’t like me because I’m too short’ will never help you become attractive. If you keep doing this you will remain a Low Status Male, meaning you will have to keep on struggling with women.

So from today talk to yourself more positively and only say good things to yourself. Make it habit of only looking for the good in yourself rather than focus on the bad. After doing this your self-esteem will slowly raise over time and others will pick up on this too.

The Rubber Band Trick

I heard this trick from Jack Canfield a life success coach and author of Chicken Soup for the Soul. To stop himself thinking negatively he used to wear a rubber band around his wrist. Whenever he thought a negative though he used to snap the band to take notice. It wasn’t to punish himself but rather to alert himself to the self destructive thoughts he was thinking.

The 30 Day Rule

I strongly urge you to start thinking positively about yourself to increase your own value. The important thing is that you must do this for 30 or more days. Don’t just do it for a day. Do it for thirty days. In time it will become a habit, and you will only be thinking good things about yourself.

And after the 30 days, just watch what happens….

Certainly the first two traits, looks and money are things that most men believe women will flock to regardless of how much the guy is an asshole or a jerk. Most men, and certainly I did a few years ago, pray for the day that a windfall of money would fall on their lap so that women would spot me from afar and rush over to me pleading for a date. Or perhaps you may have even find yourself saying ‘if only I had been born with better looks,’ you may have said this the last time you saw a beautiful woman you wanted to talk to but just couldn’t bring yourself to walk up to her and make a move.

As I always say in all my writing such beliefs are not true, and are purely fantasy. It doesn’t matter if you are average looking with a modest monthly paycheck, you can attract a total ‘ten’ of a woman.

Even as you read this now, you may think that that your position is so dire that this could never be possible not today, not tomorrow nor in a million years. Personally I don’t buy this, I believe with practice and focus, in one years time you can be a total success with women.

I hope the mention of a years time didn’t scare you away. If you’re still reading then that’s definitely a good sign because it’s a possible indication that you are more than capable of becoming successful. The reason I say this is because most of us men who struggle with women purely seek the ‘quick fix.’ In other words:

We want to be good with women NOW.

This is why the majority of men search for ‘pick up line’s and other one liners to attract women to us. A pick up line (if it works) would be a quick way to get a woman fast, the MASSIVE problem is however, is that they don’t work. Have you ever thought about this?  Could it ever be possible to get a woman to become attracted to you by saying your best pick up line? My take on pick up lines is that they may work if a woman already likes you to begin with, but how many of us are in such a position?

It’s the same deal with techniques. When I say techniques I mean quick pick up techniques that you can use on a woman that masks the reality that you may not be that ‘great’ with women. Techniques are again a lazy way to attract women, and you’ll find that they don’t work anyway.

I want to point out that I am not blaming from guys wanting to try techniques or chat up lines, I used them too a few years back. I tried to act cool around women, I tried techniques but whatever I did I ended up flat on my face. Often times I didn’t know why these things weren’t working. I really couldn’t work it out. Almost every night and all weekend I would wonder what I was doing wrong, after all, I was just doing what every other guy was doing.

Then it hit me. There was the problem.

I WAS DOING WHAT EVERY GUY WAS DOING.

This was one of the key thinking moments that changed my life. If you think about it, women get hit on all day, even average looking women get hit on all day. It would not be unfair to say that they probably get the same joker daily trying his best chat up line or his best technique. Not only are you just standing within a crowd but you’re also not differentiating yourself from other men and being unique.

In addition women can sense a faker, that’s for sure! They don’t actively scan you for any fakeness but rather their subconscious tells them to back away either through an uncomfortable ‘feeling’ or ‘vibe.’

This is why one of the most important things you can do to start attracting women today, is to begin to work on yourself. Work on your self-esteem and who you are. A woman doesn’t want someone who is fake and neither do you. Could you imagine being fake throughout your relationship? Or having to live in the fear that she may find out your true personality one day? We all want a woman to be attracted to us while we’re being ourselves. That’s what we really want, and that’s what women want to.

As I said earlier, within one year or even less, if you work on building your own self-esteem and confidence this will drastically improve your success with women. When you’re confident around women, you naturally behave the way that attracts women, they sense that you’re sincere and not out to trick them into liking them. Working on yourself is truly where it begins.

Make a commitment to yourself that you will begin to work on the ‘inner game’ rather than the outer game. Understand that techniques mean nothing if you have not built up the character within.

If you start with this in mind from today, I can guarantee that you will be in a much better position with women than if you spent an eternity learning the best pick lines and techniques.

Of course all guys think about this kind of thing all the time and would kill to know the answer. If you’re on this site then there’s no doubt you’ve thought about this too,

I often ask this question to other guys who frequent this site.

ME: ‘What attracts women to men?

- they always say the same thing.

THEM: ‘Looks’ ‘Money’ ‘Fame’

This couldn’t be further from the truth yet it has been drilled into all our heads that this is what women want. Most men believe this and this is why they fail.

I want to put out on the table the real reason that i’ve found that makes the difference and how I have seen a massive change in my fortunes with women since realising the truth.

I don’t want to disappoint anyone but it isn’t a super pick up line that magically has a girl falling head over heels in love with you or a special way to wear your hair that gets her drooling over you, it’s something any guy can do and learn to do because the secret to attracting women is all in the mind.

YOUR MIND.

Making Your Own Philosophy About Women

My argument here is that when you think about women in the right way, and by this I mean, ‘what they represent’ and ‘what they really are’ you’ll see great results and women will be drawn to you whether you are trying to attract women or not.

So if you really ‘get’ what I am going to write about, it will really accelerate and help you move in the right direction with women, girls and whoever you want.

Let’s look at this more closely. I can flat out say that most guys do not possess the right mindset. The typical one is that when we see a truly gorgeous woman, we all begin to stare, we try to chat her up, or we treat her like a goddess, in other words we do things that place her in such a high position and high status even before she’s said anything. Why do we all do this? We haven’t even qualified her. She could be a mass murderer, the spawn of the devil, the biggest racist on earth or even much more likely – a horrible person. But we don’t even ask ourselves these questions. We see an attractive woman and without thinking we assume she’s good enough for us and we put her before ourselves and who we really are.

Women’s Artificially Inflated Status

In today’s society and probably long into the future, women have gained an artificially higher status than some of them really deserve. I know this may sound harsh to women and I’m not talking about ALL women but in reality a lot of them don’t deserve your time because you are the better person. Because a woman is beautiful we fall head over heels and end up pursuing her – this is what most guys do. However the guys who really understand women and what they are, are the one’s who excel and attract them without having to think about it.

The Best Are Always Qualifying Women

You see, the high status male has thought about and installed their own philosophy about women. They don’t assume that just because a woman is beautiful that she is good enough for him, he thinks much deeper than this. Since he is a guy who attracts multiple women to himself, a woman must be more than simply good looking. He’s got the pick of the field, so he wants looks AND a personality he is attracted to in a woman. It’s this philosophy that he’ll take with him everytime he meets a woman or is around women, rather than let the woman qualify him, he will qualify her instead. And if she doesn’t stack up to his expectations then he’ll move on because they’ll be another woman who will approach him the next day.

This is the philosophy you need to adopt yourself if you want to see drastic changes. Oh, and by the way it does not matter one bit what you look like or how much money you have. Women can sense a guy who believes in himself and doesn’t fall at her feet to kiss them. If you do this you’ll set yourself apart from all the needy men who suck up and lower their own value.

It’s weird women can sense this but they can. They can sense a guy who is just looking to get laid or who is really a guy who is pretending to be cool. Although they may not be thinking about this on a conscious level, deep down their intuition will pull them away from anybody who is a fraud.

Developing Your Own Philosophy

You need to really begin to think about women and what they really represent to you.

Do you really need to suck up to a woman.. or any woman just because she is attractive?

Since I’ve understood this principle I’ve seen huge changes in my fortunes with girls. Before when I really ‘got’ this, I used to give up my value to any woman who was remotely attractive. Even if the girl wasn’t that great personality wise, it didn’t matter to me. I look back and cringe now. Ten or so years later I really began to understand this rule. I now am choosy when selecting women and won’t make myself available for any woman.This has led me to behave in such a way that women can’t help but find attractive.

What You Must Remember About How To Attract Women

Because here’s the deal – a woman will not be attracted to someone of lower status than themselves – they will only be attracted to men of equal or higher status than themselves. What most of the men who struggle with women are doing is lowering their own value below that of the woman they are pursuing.
This is not the way.

Now, my development in my mindset with women didn’t happen overnight. It took years to really understand and feel that this is what the reality really is with women. Even though you may read this and understand it, you may not be quite there yet.

So What Can You Do to Get There?

Personally I think one of the things that accelerated this into my brain was just hanging out with women, even if they were out of my league I would talk to women. Some of them didn’t even want to talk to me, but I still spent time understanding them. I wasn’t trying to date them, I just realised back then that women have deep underlying needs and things they are attracted to on a subconscious level. By spending time with women on a ‘friend level’ (and not wanting anything more) I started to surround myself with women and start to experience that being around hot women is something that comes naturally to me. Then once you do this enough… the rest comes naturally.

So before you approach a woman, or if you are chasing women at the moment really think about it. Remember this - don’t lower your own value for a woman, by doing this you are breaking a big rule of thumb that women will not date a man of lower value than herself. You deserve better so think about what I have written here.