Now, first things first I want to ask you a question:
What do you think is the best way to ask a girl out?
Have you really thought about it?
Over the years since I decided to get this area of my life handled, I went through countless times where I was repeatedly getting rejected, luckily for me this no longer happens but at the time it was tough.
The thing is, the part where I got rejected most was when I asked a girl out.
And I mean literally asking a girl out, I would often use the famous line:
“Would you like to go out sometime?”
And this was the part I would get the polite ‘no’ or ‘sorry, I’m busy.’
So rather than take these constant failures and let them destroy my life I made the decision to learn from my failures.
My philosophy now is that there isn’t such a thing as ‘failure.’
Failure only exists when you let a failure stop you from ever trying again. That’s when you really have failed.
So anyway, my constant rejections led me to believe that there must be something wrong with how I was asking girls out.
I was sure that my technique was my downfall and this was the area that needed improvement because I had already put all my secret excuses to one side.
But now that I’ve had time to tweak my approach and learn what doesn’t work, I’ve come to realize one big thing when asking out a girl that will ensure success…
And the secret is…
Here it comes…
Is to ask a girl out in such a way that you aren’t indicating to her that you like her.
You see, the problem with asking a girl outright on a date is that you are giving the woman all the power by telling her you like her.
What you should be doing instead is to ask her out as a friend.
Yes you heard me…
…. AS A FRIEND
Even if you love this girl to death you do not want to signal to her that you like her otherwise by doing so it will have the opposite effect.
Most guys when they see a girl they like, they basically signal immediately to the girl that they like her. They are literally asking for a marriage or proposing on the spot.
The problem with this is that this isn’t exciting for her…
Where’s the chase?
The game where each other’s playing ‘hard to get.’
By asking her straight out you’re BORING HER.
If she’s totally hot, get inside her head.
Realistically how many times is she going to have been asked out for some needy guy who wants to get with her?
You have to think differently my friend…
Don’t give in and ask her out like every other schmuck.
Be smart and original and you’ll be fine.