Not Successful With Women? Here’s Why

It’s a well known fact that there are a lot of guys who are making a much harder time of attracting women to them than it really is. It’s not uncommon to experience the natural feelings of total helplessness and frustration when whatever you try to do to get a woman to look your way, and she doesn’t. Rather, she moves in the total opposite direction. Not good.

I know this feeling very well myself having experienced it day after day for years. Since I’ve been getting myself more acquainted with the topic of attraction, I’ve thankfully turned this fact right on it’s head and I now enjoy a much better life free of these worries.

I look at men today who struggle with women, then I compared myself to how I was back then too and I’ve noticed that one of the major factors that keep all us men down is what we actually thinks attract women.

I’d wager that if you asked any guy who currently struggles with women, what the main things that are attract women are, they will say ‘looks’, ‘money’ and fame.

I’m here to tell that I don’t necessarily believe that looks, money and fame contribute to overall attraction. As I always write, a woman who becomes attracted to a man who lacks personality solely on because of his looks, she will find it hard to stay with him long-term. A guy who only has looks will not be able to keep the best women with him and even though he may get attention initially from an interested woman, she will go off him very quickly, once she realizes he is boring.

This is true of money also. How often do we hear stories of women who marry men for money only for them to go on to have affairs with more interesting men with little or no money.

What women want is totally different to what we really know.

Before I go on, I don’t blame men for thinking that money, fame and looks attracts women, after all I was one who also adopted this line of thinking a few years back,  it’s just that we’ve been brainwashed slowly to believe that these things matter.

If you take two men who are often cited as being in high demand by women, I would go with George Clooney and Brad Pitt.

Lets look at this closely. Do they cover all these traits? First of all they certainly both have money, they probably can easily command above $10million per movie. Secondly, ‘yes’ they have looks. And since their faces are constantly splashed over every magazine and theater screen they definitely have fame.

So in conclusion these three things must be attractive to women?

I still don’t buy this. I think that if you look a lot deeper these two men both have something else about them that makes them attractive and that’s that they carry themselves with confidence, and this is something that any man can instill in himself with a bit of practice.

If you watch them both, they are both confident and have a charm about them, and in addition they both have good body language. In other words they have the core traits that women want. Sean Connery has been a hit with women, even up until now because of his confidence.

Some guys have caught on to the fact that confidence is key. The only problem is they try to apply a veneer of fake confidence by acting ‘cool’ or trying to impress a potential girlfriend by being someone else.

It doesn’t take a second for a woman to catch on to the fact that you may be deceiving her, if she senses this she’ll quickly move off. I know this is true because it happened to me multiple times, the frustrating thing was that I couldn’t work out why I kept getting the cold shoulder.

This is why it is imperative that guys looking for a quick fix to becoming attractive to women through pick up lines and techniques cease to stop searching for the magic bullet. The key is to take the time to build up your own self esteem and your own confidence, this may take some time, but when you get to a point where women radiate to your confidence even when you aren’t trying, then in itself this is the magic bullet.

Since I started to work on the inner game rather than the outer game, I saw great leaps of improvement. Women seem to respond much more favorably when you are being exactly who you are. It’s just that most of us don’t have the guile to remain ourselves around women.

If you want to improve your success with women stop looking for the quick fix and focus on working on yourself long-term. You’ll find that your life will begin to pick up and of course, more women will come.