Through life you’ve probably seen this guy known as the High Status Male. In most cases you probably didn’t even know it was ‘him’ you were looking at.
Do you remember the guy who had all the girls around him?
The guy that always had his choice of the field of women?
I bet that in most cases you even cursed his luck with women. I myself admit that I did my own bit of cursing to a guy such as this and I’d also go over the areas in life I was better than him so that I could look down at him. Oh, and by the way there wasn’t much that I was better than him at.
The High Status Male is somebody you should model ourselves on if you want the following things:
- To attract women even when you aren’t trying
- To attract the best women who are truly 10 of 10 and in the highest league.
- To attract women without having to be fake because we are so genuine that every woman wants to be with us.
- To attract the best women without by only being ourselves and doing what we want to do in life.
- To never have to worry about ‘getting women’ again so that you can live with the feeling that this part of your life is handled.
I’m sure a lot of these points were of interest to you and you were nodding your head to all the points.
Just to let you know I am not here to sell you a quick fix to becoming him. It takes time and you have to work on your ‘inner game’ to become like him. To emphasise how and why he can attract so many women compared to us, I want to first look at the whole idea of ‘value’.
Inner Value
I believe that men who are successful with women are successful for primarily one reason. No it’s not money, looks or athleticism. It’s how much a guy values himself. It’s how much confidence he has about who he is and what he represents. The High Status Male knows that he doesn’t have to actively go out and impress a woman because he can be himself and impress women.
Now that’s confidence!
So why do women go after a man who values himself?
Let’s look at one of my formulas on value. I say that: A woman will only be attracted to a guy of greater or equal value to herself.
This means that if a woman is approached by a woman who she believes is of lower value, she will not want to be with him. However, if a guy approaches her who is of greater value than herself, she will respond to the guy.
Now here’s the deal, a High Status Male values himself so highly, that everyone in his proximity can pick up on his positive vibes. His confidence is clear for all to see. When a woman notices a guy with this much confidence about who he is, she can’t help but also value him highly.
We can also use this to explain why a lot of men never get women through techniques and seeking to impress women (If you’re interested I wrote an article here). When a guy approaches a woman with the intention of trying to please a woman this backfires because a woman will intuitively pick up the ‘desperate and needy’ vibes of the guy and immediately deem him as a low value male. Since her value is higher, she will not respond to this type of guy.
Work on Yourself
The good news is that most High Status Males were not born with high confidence but it’s something they gained as they worked on themselves. I wouldn’t be surprised if most High Status Males were at some point like you and I. Simply put, this means that any guy through constant work and effort can slowly evolve into a male who values himself, and when you start to value yourself more, you will notice your success with women begin to rise.
One of the best places to start in your quest to become a High Status Male is to learn to control your inner thoughts. This is what you think about yourself. Self-talk like: “I’m not good-looking enough” or “Women, won’t like me because I’m too short’ will never help you become attractive. If you keep doing this you will remain a Low Status Male, meaning you will have to keep on struggling with women.
So from today talk to yourself more positively and only say good things to yourself. Make it habit of only looking for the good in yourself rather than focus on the bad. After doing this your self-esteem will slowly raise over time and others will pick up on this too.
The Rubber Band Trick
I heard this trick from Jack Canfield a life success coach and author of Chicken Soup for the Soul. To stop himself thinking negatively he used to wear a rubber band around his wrist. Whenever he thought a negative though he used to snap the band to take notice. It wasn’t to punish himself but rather to alert himself to the self destructive thoughts he was thinking.
The 30 Day Rule
I strongly urge you to start thinking positively about yourself to increase your own value. The important thing is that you must do this for 30 or more days. Don’t just do it for a day. Do it for thirty days. In time it will become a habit, and you will only be thinking good things about yourself.
And after the 30 days, just watch what happens….