As we surge into the era of the internet we’ve become more and more accustomed to getting and learning information online. It’s the same when we want to learn about what attracts women. There are now countless sites and information giving us the key techniques and strategies for picking up women.
We are now in a situation where we cannot complain that there isn’t enough information on the subject, there’s literally tons of it, yet despite the mass information out there many of us men still don’t know what it takes to become attractive to the opposite sex.
More specifically, we try everything that we think works yet nothing seems to work. I’ve found myself in endless situations where I’ve tried to impress a woman by being a cool guy that she wants or the nice guy who’s always there for her – the downside was not once did any of these things work. I am sure that there are many other guys who are in this position right now who experience the same results as myself.
For me, this cycle of rejection and of a girl always being interested in some else continued for as long as I kept doing these things that are SUPPOSED to attract women. That was the big ‘aha’ moment, that was the moment that really excelled my understanding and sparked my interest into finding out what really did attract women.
But before we get to that exciting revelation, I feel it’s important to discuss why a lot of us can’t get women.
One reason is this.
Most of us men are trying to attract women using techniques that will never work. The issue here is that all of us think it should work because that’s what everyone else is doing. The consensus is that we should ‘act cool’ and be ‘nice’ and use pick up lines.
Firstly, acting cool will never work. Women are incredibly intuitive, so much so that I often liken them to cats. You know the way that cats just know which person in the room is focusing on them – funny thing is, the cat will ignore the person who is focusing on the cat and be drawn to the person who isn’t thinking about them. Women are the same in that they can sense someone acting cool very easily and a bit like cats, they will go after the person who isn’t eyeing them up. They don’t want a faker or someone who isn’t genuine.
Ask yourself this: Would you want someone who wasn’t genuine?
Being Nice
And here’s why being ‘nice’ doesn’t work. Being nice will never create attraction. It will never get a woman from not liking you, to suddenly liking you just because you’re nice. You’re not suddenly going to turn into somebody she must have and become totally irresistible to her. My philosophy is that being nice is boyfriend behavior. In other words being nice only works once she already likes you. If you buy a woman flowers when she’s already madly hot for you, it works wonders. Conversely, if she doesn’t feel hot for you, and you buy her flowers then it doesn’t do anything for her and unlikely will.
Despite the whole debacle that most of us men are using techniques that don’t work we still continue to pursue with them. We are conditioned to believe that to attract women you have to be cool or act nice or impress a woman. Sure you should impress a woman, but you don’t want to go out SEEKING to impress a woman.
If you really want to stop failing with women and turn it around into success immediately then you must stop thinking that you know what attracts women or you must start to stop believing that techniques and pick up lines are the things that work.
If you don’t stop, then all you are doing is being like every other guy out there. Women get approached by men all the time, and probably 90% of these guys are using the same lame techniques. For a woman to take notice of you and to become intrigued you need to be yourself.
Be Yourself
If you’re a guy who is damn sure that being ‘yourself’ is not the answer then I have news for you, it’s the only way, and it’s the way that I have used to create an abundance of women in my life. You may not think that being yourself will not work because you aren’t a natural that attracts women. Heck I was there too! I wasn’t comfortable with who I was, but once you do, you have plenty of attraction power within.
By the way, thinking this way is not bad, it seems logical. I also thought this way. But what you have to do, is build up your confidence and self-esteem and work on your inner game, so that when you be yourself around women – you magnify true awesomeness that women can’t resist.
There’s a type of guy who has built up his self-esteem and attracts women 24/7 without thinking about it. This is a guy who understands that he doesn’t need to impress women, nor does he need to be fake to attract one. Women are all attracted to this type of guy. I’ve singled him out as being the High Status Male. With enough work and dedication we can all become a High Status Male and attract women for who we are without being fake.
Isn’t this what we all really want?